Published By: Ahvana Paul

An Introvert’s guide to big fat Indian Weddings- How to navigate your way through and not get awkward!

Wedding season is now on full scale in India, and surely you have got some invites! But are you also someone who is an introvert and therefore a tad bit hesitant about it all? Are you an introvert, yet someone who is obliged to go because it is a close friend or relative’s wedding, and you are worried as to how to navigate through all of it? 3-4 four-day ceremonies can be a lot of socialization and hence stressful but don’t worry. Here are some tips for you to help you through this!

Find your circle!

Weddings can be a maze of socializing, but also loads of fun, if you have your circle in place! The key is to find your group of friends, or your cousins at the wedding, and hang out with them. This will make it a fun experience for you, and you will not be awkward. If you are relatively alone, and all your close friends cannot make it, try and find a group of people who are close to you and who you can hang out with. You will be surprised at how many common friends you might end up seeing. This is the first step to making sure that the days of the ceremonies are fun for you!

Make the most of the parts you like –

True, weddings can be about socialization, and while that is a crucial aspect, remember, it is not the only one! There are more things at the wedding which are fun. Sometimes wedding ceremonies, such as sangeets and mehendis as well as the real wedding have elaborate dances. Moreover, what is one of the most exciting parts of weddings is dressing up beforehand, wearing beautiful clothes, and dolling up for the occasion. All these things are fun too!

Last resort: Charge your phone beforehand

Though this is something that is frowned upon and something which doesn’t fall into the category of good social etiquette, do make sure that your phone is charged so that you have a backup in case the socialization is affecting you too much. Though it is bad manners, the truth of the matter is that everyone ends up doing it- checking their phones unnecessarily in public. If you end up sitting alone, unsure what to do, at least you have one thing in hand to busy yourself with! This is, however, something you use only as a LAST RESORT! It is still rude!

FOOD above all!

It is a fact universally acknowledged that food is a very very important part of big fat Indian weddings. If socializing is too much for you to undertake, and you still have to make an appearance, just focus on the food and the menu! At least, that way, you would have got a good meal!

Give it a shot!

If it is a family wedding, you should probably try to get involved! Even if you are not too close, but have come as a result of social duty, trust me, do it for yourself. If it’s a cousin’s wedding, and there is a chance to dance, go ahead and get involved. It might end up being more fun than you expect! Moreover, considering the millions of things there are to do, a helping hand is welcome. This way you will be able to get to know them better and meet other people also involved in these tasks!  

All the best! Do not forget to enjoy yourself! Give it a chance and you could end up having fun!