From home cooked meals and comfort of home to having to talk about life plans moving back home is a bitter sweet experience
Any adult who has moved back home with their parents know they can take a break from adulating. While living away from home, managing a house while working full time is not an easy job. Cooking, cleaning, managing finances, keeping fit, working extra becomes a part of life. It also makes us think how our parents managed to juggle work, home, and children all so well. Moving back home might be for various reasons. But while we make the move, returning to the house we grew up in feels the same. Well almost.
Here are the very relatable list of things every adult feels when they move back home.
Remember when you had your own place Well, back home, privacy has been traded with free food and lodging. Be prepared for parents to barge in with a casual, “All good? Okay” and leaving the door open on their way out.
Remember that room you left in a rush years ago? Moving back home means resetting the angry teenage angst vibes into a K-pop loving adult. Awkward past rearranged to awkward adult.
Moving back in is waking up to the loud sound of your father clearing his sinuses when brushing his teeth. Moving back in is waking up to pot and pans banging in the kitchen (mom is making breakfast) or the vacuum running. Their morning starts at 6 and apparently now, yours does too.
Family dinners and game nights are now a regular part of life. While it’s nice to reconnect, you might also get the feeling that you’re part of a never-ending family drama series. Get ready for deep conversations about everyone’s day and spirited debates over board games. You’ll become a pro at small talk – or learn to sneak away to the kitchen.
Moving back home is watching your aged parents bicker over something that could be resolved if they just communicated more clearly. You might have to intervene and calmly talk to each of them to make them see things more clearly. You learn they are the bickering children and you are their parent now.
Living at home means not worrying about rent or utility bills. It means saving a lot of money.
Moving back home means your every move is under scrutiny. Going to the gym? Where is the gym? How long will you take? Take this route, not that. Heading to the grocery store? Can you get me this? Also complete with reminders to bring home any special sales. Going out for lunch? “Are you going alone? Friend? From school? Who do you know here? When will you be back?”. Yes, you will be questioned and yes, you will give answers.
Moving back home is getting at least 2 texts from dad and a missed call from mom asking if you are still at the gym. And if you are out with people, there will be phone calls involved if the outing lasts longer than 2 hours. Thank you, mom. It’s not like I have lived on my own past midnight when I lived in a different city.
You might think you’ve left the world of unsolicited advice behind, but nope – it’s alive and well at home. From asking about workplace balance to advices on how to properly knead a dough, parents will be there for advice (even uncalled for).
Moving back home as an adult means finding alone time a difficulty. If your parents aren’t planning something to do every evening or every day, they are worried about you not spending time with family. How do you tell your mom that as an adult, lying on the bed, doom scrolling is your favourite past time?
Moving back home as an adult is learning about family stories that you never knew before. Some scandalous, some funny, some quite NSFW, yes, you learn about them a lot, bit by bit. As an adult you are now privileged to know every story that wasn’t discussed because you were a child.
Moving back home means being asked if you have someone special, or the constant nagging that you should be thinking about marriage. It can also escalate to your parents finding potential matches or dates for you. Yes, its nerve wrecking. Yes, it annoying. It also comes with the side advice of how you are not getting any younger and everyone needs a partner in life.
