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Dating rules you do not need to follow

The wait three days rule is pretty dumb now, tbh.

We have heard these ‘dating rules’, right? Rules like how men should make the first move or the asking out bit, how date should be planned, don’t get physical on the first date, who should pay – all the rules really take the fun out of dating and make it feel more like a job hunt.

Dating is supposed to be fun and make you have a good time. Dating is not as depicted in rom-coms, throw in the countless rules in it and how much fun do you think will be involved in the whole dating scene?

Here are the rules we hear about and let us tell you why you must completely ignore them.

Rule: Wait for sometime before calling them back

Bruh, in this fast-paced dating scene, and more importantly, in this age of fast technology and forward -thinking mentality, don’t play the waiting game. Break the three-day rule and respond quickly if you liked them. If it’s a turn off for them, then were they the right person for you anyway?

Rule: No talking about exes on the first date

Bruh, talking about exes is a great way to find out how your date feels about their exes. More importantly, you can tell a lot about their personality by the way they speak of their exes. Major red flags will pop up if they describe all their exes as crazy, emotional etc.

Rule: Sticking to gender roles

Never chase a man, a woman is told. But that’s an archaic rule that you must break. It’s okay for you to ask a man out. Likewise, when it comes to paying, don’t be a stickler about who pays on the first date. It’s the 21st century. Don’t be guided by gender stereotypes.

Rules: Wait till a few dates to get into bed with them

It has been told and told (mostly to woman) that you must wait at least a few dates to get into the physical part of dating. There should be no hard and fast rules about it. If you feel comfortable scheduling your bedtime, it’s upto you. Do what makes you comfortable.

Rule: You must immediately hit it off

If you don’t hit if off on the first date, its futile. The hitting off part is mostly lust and has the potential of making you overlook other factors or personality traits that would other wise be a deal breaker. Give the person a fair shot, even if you don’t feel the heated chemistry. It’s alright.

Rule: No serious conversations on the first few dates

No, leave that. Talk about serious stuff. Talk about politics, critical analysis of a period piece, opinions about current affairs. See where they stand.

Sanjukta

As a pursuing scholar, Sanjukta lives her days reading research papers and lifestyle articles. When she is not pursuing academics, being a noob at video games keep her busy. She believes in equality and a healthy mind over anything else. She doesn't mind having a day-old pizza as breakfast. A hardcore caffeine head.
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