How To Be A Good Secret Keeper: Tips That Can Prevent You From Spilling The Beans

We all wish to be reliable friends who are excellent at preserving other people‘s secrets. But how can you be one? Find out!

It is human nature to trade juicy whispers from one ear to another. And secrets perish when that information transforms into gossip. Therefore, it is essential to protect them against gossip mongers who can sabotage your privacy. Here are a few ways that can help you become a trusted secret keeper.

Take it to your grave and tell no one

There can be no place safer than the grave for your secret. Secrets are private information about people, and if you never talk about it to anyone, it will stay with you until you die.

Do not document the information.

Many people have a habit of documenting their as well as others’ secrets in a journal or sometimes even on a blog. However, this increases the risk of someone reading it accidentally or in your absence and finding out what was supposed to be a secret. If a secret starts burdening you, confess it to a confidant to release the pressure off your chest, but do not document it.

Ask how long they want you to keep it a secret.

It is sometimes easier to guard someone’s secret if you know how long you have to keep it concealed from others. If your friend, co-worker or family member expects you to keep a secret forever, it is best to ask about it upfront.

Be in denial

The best way to keep a secret is to pretend it never happened. So be in denial and try to forget about it. This trick will prevent the secret from getting circulated.

If necessary, change the topic.

At some point in time, you might be persuaded to spill secrets. During such situations, the wisest thing to do would be to shift the topic of discussion and divert everyone’s attention.

Lie, if necessary

Well, you might have heard people say that white lies are socially acceptable because they cause no harm to anyone. If spilling your secret hurts someone’s sentiments or feelings, then it is best to keep it hidden, even if it demands you to lie.

Never allow anyone to turn the secret into gossip.

Secrets, when revealed, can become gossip for others. Protect it by not sharing it with people who might blurt it out during social events.

Finally, if you are not good at keeping secrets, discourage people from spilling the beans at you.


Satavisha hails from the city of joy, Kolkata. She took up writing as my profession amid the pandemic when the world was at a standstill. Here, she acquired a balance between her passion for writing and sharing various ideas and facts through her stories.
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