How to get your children listen and respect you
Respecting each other is the glue behind a healthy family dynamic. However, most of the times parents struggle to get the respect of their children or even listen to them. Here are some ways in which you can earn your children’s admiration.
Respect your children
Children idolize their parents and replicate whatever their parents do. When you start respecting your children, they begin to mirror the behaviour and will start respecting you back. Respect is something that parents can easily teach by demonstrating.
Treat each other with respect
Children are greatly influenced by how the parents treat each other. You set the standard and tonality if the family when the children witness mother and father treating each other with respect and dignity despite their differences. You can’t expect respect from a child who constantly see their parents conflicting and belittling each other.
Live your life with integrity
Children are masters at observing. When you have solid ethics, you are generous, you respect elders, talk positively about others, demonstrate punctuality, and care for the environment, you will reflect a very likeable personality in front of your children. They will respect you for all these virtues and listen to your words.
Lead your family
It’s not only about loving your family but leading everyone. This means you listen to each other’s needs and respond with affection and answers. Children see parents as family leaders and when they see anyone faltering on that front, they cease to respect them. A family leader commands an ear and respect for the children.
Be kind and firm and not punish when it comes to discipline
One of the most important responsibilities of parents is to teach and train the children. In doing so, parents have to be very caring and discipline in a positive way. Positive discipline is a very efficient and long-lasting approach than any punitive approach. Being harsh earns you no respect, be kind yet firm.
Don’t shy away from apologizing when called for
Parents are human too and humans err. So, when you had an occasional outburst or did not meet your commitment made to the children, don’t be shy from saying ‘I am sorry. Children respect a mature grown-up owning a mistake and apologizing. This doesn’t undermine your authority, but reinforces it and builds up credibility.
Don’t try to be a friend, be a loving parent to your children. Remember, love commands respect rather than demanding it.