Parenting: Things you should never say to your children

Things you say to your children shape up their mental view of the world.

Children don’t come with a manual, and even the best of us make mistakes. Sometimes in a fit of rage or anger, we say things to our children that we wish we hadn’t. But once those words are said, you can’t take them back. What’s the solution you ask?

Being mindful of the things you say irrespective of your mood. Thus, we have compiled a list of things you should never say to your children.

• “Stop crying”

Saying this to your child makes them think that showing sad emotions is bad, and they will get scolded for tears. Therefore, they might use anger or frustration later as a way to let out their sad emotions.

Correct phrase: Make your child identify their emotions by asking, “why are you crying” or “ tell me what is wrong.”

• “You should listen to adults”

The child, upon hearing this, will start associating with the fact that all adults are right, including strangers on the road.

Correct phrase: Try saying, “you should listen to your parents.”

• “I will never forgive you”

Sometimes in the heat of the moment, you might say this phrase. The child then thinks that his actions will be remembered against him for life.

Correct phrase: You should instead take a breath and calm down and say, “What you did was wrong, but we will find a way to leave this behind and move on.”

• “Because I said so”

This is one of the most clichéd phrases and is right there with, “you don’t need to know everything.” These phrases take control away from your children.

Correct phrase: You should always give a reason or context to why you are asking your child to do or not do something. Instead try saying, “I know you want to go out today, but I have work to finish. Is it okay if we go tomorrow?”

• “Look at how the other girl/boy is doing”

Never compare your child to other children his or her age. It will negatively affect their self-esteem.

Correct phrase: You need to point out your child’s abilities and encourage them to be proud of their unique talents. Instead say, “You can do this. I believe in you.”

Always think before speaking to your child to ensure that they grow up to be the best versions of them.