Practical Tips On How To Start A Conversation
Let’s face it: starting a conversation can be intimidating. It can be difficult to know how to begin a conversation with someone new, network or go on your first (or tenth) date.
It might be nerve-wracking to introduce yourself to strangers or approach an acquaintance, but it doesn’t have to. Luckily, even though it might seem like good conversation skills are something some people are just born with, all it takes is a bit of practice.
Here are some tips for starting a conversation:
There is no “perfect line.” Be the first one to say hello. They’re likely to be pleased that you have introduced yourself.
Use what you already know to benefit. This person is at your party, right? Maybe you are at the same event or networking event. Use them to your benefit to start a conversation. You are likely to have been invited by the same person to the same party. So you can ask “What’s your connection with the host/hostess?”
Do not ask “How are you?” This is a lazy way to start a conversation. You can make it a conversation by asking someone how you are doing. Don’t just say “good”, give the other person something they can work with. You can tell them you are going home for the holidays, or you can just say that you have been busy at work. Keep it brief.
Use the phrase “Tell me about yourself”. Ask someone you are just meeting to tell you something about themselves. It’s an open-ended question that lets whoever you’re talking to choose what they want to tell you about. You can ask them what they want to tell you about themselves and the conversation will flow naturally.
Ask your friend what keeps them busy.
You are allowed to voice your opinion. However, you should also give the other person an opportunity to share their opinion. There are many opinions that we all share and they can spark conversation. You must ensure that your conversation flows well. “I am very careful to say, “And what do you think about this?”
Offer verbal cues. It’s not a good feeling to feel like you’re talking to someone behind your back. Ask simple questions to let people know that you are listening and paying attention when they talk to you. What did you mean? What was the first thing that happened? What was the next step? You see.
Everything is dependent on body language
Being approachable will make you a better conversationalist. Look approachable, make eye contact. If your eyes are closed, you’re less likely to be approached by someone. Your body language is important throughout the conversation.