There may be immense love, mushiness and loyalty, but if you observe closely, some couples feel very insecure in their relationship. Are you dealing with such a partner?
Insecurity can be defined as a condition that is triggered when an individual feels uneasy or nervous as a result of feeling inferior to something or someone. Emotional insecurity can make people question their ego or self-image in the presence of a person or during a situation that makes them feel inferior. So, how can you tell whether or not your partner is an insecure lover? From demanding to learn every little detail of your day to wanting lots of reassurance, here are some signs that indicate you are probably dealing with an insecure partner.
They don’t easily trust you
Your partner doubts every little thing you say or do, and for verification, they often stalk you on various social media platforms. They snoop on you and easily feel threatened by the idea of losing you.
Seeking constant reassurance
Does your significant other often ask you if you still love them and if you are going to be together forever? And these questions keep getting frequent because they are constantly seeking reassurance. Such emotional insecurity often stems from a lonely childhood or negative past experiences. If they don’t seek reassurance directly from you, they will try to find out indirectly to know if you are content with them.
They guilt trip you
They are critical, envious, and suffocating at times. Insecure people can often make you feel guilty for doing normal things, like not responding to their call immediately or for not messaging them all day long. If you spend a couple of hours not talking to them, they interrogate and guilt trip you. Do not encourage this behavior because if your partner truly loves you, they should give you space.
The ex talk
The ex talk is never a pleasant idea because we all have dead relationships buried under the ground for good, and conversations about past lovers can make things bitter in your current relationship. You should note that only insecure lovers discuss a lot about their ex-partners and ask too many questions about yours. This interrogation does not indicate healthy behavior.
They often feel attacked
Does your partner easily feel hurt, offended, or attacked by something you do or ask them? You are dealing with an insecure lover if they instantly feel criticized and always defend themselves by shutting down or violently arguing with you.
They smother you with love in social settings
Insecure people like to smother their loved ones with physical and emotional affection in public. They want to cling to you in a social setting, to make it clear to everyone that you two are a thing – lovebirds. You may find it cute at first, but as the partnership deepens, you will notice how difficult it gets to handle.
If your lover is chronically insecure, sooner or later, it is going to take a toll on your relationship.