Published By: Mumpy Chakraborty

Ways to teach your child not to give up

These steps will help your child to understand that giving up is never the solution rather if you want to get it, you have to keep on fighting

Giving up in hard times comes easily to us, especially during childhood. Always under the shade of our parents, as a child, we hardly make our own decisions, and whenever we face a tough situation, we try to hide away, cry for help or try to avoid reality. Where all of these seem very natural for a child to do, if not corrected may continue to be as an adult, which will in the future as an adult which will make it difficult to survive in a competitive world. That is why it is the responsibility of the parents to introduce failures and challenges to their children so that they accept them and fight all their challenges on their own without giving up. Practising these steps may help your child to teach them not to give up.

Let your child  make mistakes 

Parents are always protective of their children and the biggest mistake they make is don’t let their child make a mistake in the first place. Which is a very wrong thing to teach a child. Mistakes are part of our life and they are bound to happen at some time. By not letting them make any mistakes means the child will never know how to learn new things in the right way because we only learn from our mistakes. Also, they will not know how to cope with a mistake or failure once they face it in the future. So to make them aware of failures, accepting them and overcoming them, the parents need to first let the child make mistakes.

Be supportive

A child doesn’t need his/her parents to stop them from making mistakes but needs them by their side while overcoming them. Guide them in the right direction and be there for your child while he/she is making or recovering from a mistake. Always have a positive outlook and make your child look at the brighter side of the situation. Be a role model yourself and just be supportive of his/her own decision.

Emotional management

Managing our emotions is a difficult task even as adults, but if learnt from an early age may help us cope with it in the future. Don't let your child suede away emotions, make them able to keep a balance. As a human you can’t take away the emotions from an individual, all you need to make them learn is how to handle these emotions and when to give them a priority. Sometimes taken away by emotions affects our work and career at that time we need to be rational while making any decision. Emotions should be well aligned with your conscience and morals, and shouldn't b overpowering. Let them deal with their own failures, sorrows and happiness. You can guide them, but don’t stop them from experiencing it. It is an important part of their personality development.

Give constructive criticism

Provide a constructive form of criticism while dealing with your child, do not just scold them and give them punishment. In this way, you will make them defensive, and they will find ways to make an excuse or blame it on others, which you don’t want them to do. Rather give them a constructive form of criticism with pros and cons and right and wrong, and let them be the judge. Forcing something upon them or continuously criticising only brings out the negative side of the failure and mistakes and not the positive side.