But don’t give up yet.
No matter how long you’ve been with your partner, anxiety can come in at any point. And so it turns out a lot of people get anxious at the start of a relationship. The constant thought if you are good enough, childhood experiences causing second thoughts in adult relationships, personal crisis creating anxiety, attachment style can cause relationship anxiety.
For some, its temporary and only in the beginning when they face the choice of going into a relationship. For some, it comes in intervals, usually as an after effect from other personal events. Whatever the cause, relationship anxiety is only bad if you try to ignore it or live in denial. Letting the anxiety grow can damage the relationship, or worse, break it down completely.
What is relationship anxiety?
It’s the doubts, second-guessing your partner, tiresome worrying about the relationship. Things like whether your boyfriend still loves you, or if he has fallen out of love with you and other stuff that makes you overthink but in reality is somewhat baseless. Even after constant reassurance, you are not convinced and the second-guessing keep on coming.
So, what does relationship anxiety look like?
You overthink in the relationship
Overthinking is perhaps one of the biggest reasons that can make you go to war with your own mind and sabotage a perfectly good relationship. Overthinking causes mental stress.
Doubts are creeping in
Doubting your relationship and partner can put immense stress on the relationship to the point, where if you don’t communicate and seek help, can sabotage the relationship.
You are getting insecure
Constantly worrying if your partner’s faithfulness, non stop checking his social media are all signs you are facing relationship anxiety.
You seek validation
Constantly feeling the need from your partner to tell you that they love is a sign. However, this puts pressure on your partner as well.
Thinking the absolute worst
Conjuring up situations in your head, thinking the worst thing to happen in your relationship is a major indicator of anxiety. You imagine all the things that can go horribly wrong and that leads to immense mental stress.
Low self esteem
Low self esteem can cause us to doubt our worthiness. It can make you think that your partner is too good for you. Negative thoughts from low self esteem cause you to doubt the validity of your partner and the relationship in general.
Attachment style
Partners start to look alike as they pick up each other’s habits, likes and dislikes. And that’s normal upto a certain degree. Attachment style where you imbibe your partner’s whole personality so you don’t be in conflict with them. Anxious attachment style can make you question your partner and relationship.
